Forgive & Forget...

Forgiveness is our most potent medicine for self-healing. The light of forgiveness transforms everything it touches. When we forgive, we open the door to miracles in our lives. To forgive is to let go completely release any negative thoughts or feelings you have been holding toward yourself or another. You say goodbye to hate, resentment, anger, hurt, guilt, and shame. You stop living in the land of "if only" and start accepting what "it is" you can move forward on your life's path. Forgiveness is a powerful choice you make to be whole again and what's most important.. to Love again.


Unfortunately, many people do not avail themselves of the healing power of forgiveness because of misconceptions they hold.

Some common myths about forgiveness are:


1. The other person has to do something before I can forgive him or her.

If you are waiting for another to recognize he or she has wronged you, you have placed the power to heal yourself in someone else's hands. Take back the power to set yourself free of the past by choosing to forgive regardless of whether or not the other ever sees the light.


2. If I forgive, I am saying what the other person did was okay.


Forgiveness does not send the message that the others bad behavior was okay. Rather, it is saying that you are not going to continue to dwell on the past and carry the heavy feelings associated with it. When we lighten our emotional load, we refuse to allow the past to torment us in the present.


3. I must hold positive feelings for the person I am forgiving.


While forgiveness may help to transmute our pain and anger into compassion for the other, it is not necessary to replace the negative feelings you have had towards the other with positive ones. Of primary importance is your willingness to release the negative energy you have been holding towards a person or situation.


4. Forgiveness is something I do for the other.


Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. It takes a lot of your energy to continue to hold on to negative feelings toward another. Forgiveness releases this energy so you can apply it to more constructive and joyful pursuits.

5. If I forgive, I may get hurt again.

You can let go of the past while holding on to what an experience has taught you. To forgive is to retain the wisdom while releasing the pain associated with the life lesson.

6. I only need to forgive someone once.

Forgiveness is a process, so you may need to let go more than once. Should the negative feelings reappear, be gentle with yourself, and choose to release them one more time.

7. I need to understand why before I can forgive.

Needing to understand why is a trap that can snare you. Life is full of mysteries. You may never understand the whys which underlie anothers behavior. Don't let that prevent you from releasing the past and moving on with your life.

Your inner guidance is forever urging you to choose the path of healing and joy. When you activate the power of forgiveness, you release any negative hold that the past has had on you. Give yourself the gift of forgiveness, and watch your life transform as it becomes a more perfect reflection of the light that you are.

In other words: Forgive.. but NEVER Forget.